10 Guidelines to Acceptance of the Space Between

My New Yorker BXT (box of trust co-founder) friend ‘mk’ sent this to me earlier this week…some (slightly clichéd but I like them) rules to live by. 10 Guidelines to Acceptance of the Space Between:

    1. Do not make assumptions about what he/she is thinking or feeling; believe only what he/she has actually expressed.
    2. Do not speculate about where he/she is or what he/she is doing.
    3. Do not hope to hear from him/her, know that you will eventually.
    4. Do not fear the things cannot control, especially the future.
    5. Do not feel sorry for yourself and remember that he/she is suffering more than you.
    6. Do not forget the truth of who he/she is and why you fell in love with him/her.
    7. Do not judge him/her for doing what he/she thinks is right or for being human.
    8. Do not shirk your responsibilities because of emotional distress; they will actually keep you grounded.
    9. Do not be self-destructive; love yourself instead.
    10. Believe in his/her love for you and let it flow through you into the world.
Hanae Utamura, Aviemore, 2011, C-type print, edition of 5 plus 2 AP, 70 x 102 cm/ 28 x 40 inches

Hanae Utamura, Aviemore, 2011, C-type print, edition of 5 plus 2 AP, 70 x 102 cm/ 28 x 40 inches

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